This was such a great first article! I love how well you put your thoughts together, it flows so smoothly, and your vocabulary is really impressive. I’m curious, how did you develop such a strong writing style? Any favorite resources or tips for improving vocabulary and clarity? Honestly, I want to grow and be like you, you’re my role model.🥰
It took some time to be able to build the vocabulary I have, but it’s honestly just the product of reading a lot and retaining that information. If I don’t understand something, I make sure to teach myself the word and use it until it becomes a staple in my vocabulary. I always have like 20 tabs open on my laptop because I’m looking up definitions. 😅 I also struggled a lot with people misinterpreting what I was communicating, so learning to articulate myself was really important to me.
I wanted to take a moment to share how deeply your article on polygamy resonated with me. Your words were not only enlightening but also profoundly compassionate, offering a perspective that is so often misunderstood. In fact, I was so moved by your piece that I want to print it out.
You articulated the Islamic view of polygamy with remarkable clarity, particularly the emphasis on it being a necessity rather than a lifestyle, a principle our Prophet Muhammad, peace be upon him, embodied through his actions during times of war, orphaned families, and societal imbalance. This distinction is crucial, and I recently found myself explaining this very nuance to my non-Muslim friends. Many had conflated polygamy with indulgence, but your article gave me the framework to clarify that it’s rooted in compassion, justice, and responsibility toward vulnerable members of the community.
Beyond the content itself, your writing style is exceptional. The way you weave historical context, Islamic ethics, and modern relevance together is amazing. You have a gift for making complex ideas feel approachable.
Thank you for sharing your voice and knowledge with the world. Articles like yours not only deepen understanding but also remind us of the beauty in Islam’s balanced teachings. Please keep writing! your words matter more than you know.
Beautiful article, with some more ammo to your argument, without saying that everything about polygyny is bad. Also what you meant here as polygamy is in factual term polygyny, to be specific Islam sanctions polygyny and not random polygamy!
Another critical pov., our dear Prophet (pbuh) married young, when he was in his early 20s, and remained married to the One and Only woman for next 30 years, till the age of late 40s/early 50s, and that woman was Sayeda Khadija, the only woman who made him a father of Sayeda Fatima Zahra, the most wisest, the most educated, owner of a business empire, on whose wealth the early Islam found its feet (read Sura Duha of Quran, it describes it here).
Then his daughter Fatima too married early and remained married as the One and Only wife of Sayedna Ali.
Point here is when these men of Islam-Original found their “match”, they remained married to one and only woman, who were their equals in their mission, thoughts, and efforts.
They both did marry later to other women after the tragic deaths of these wives, who you mentioned for various reasons, Ayesha because she was rejected by the son of Abu Lahab, a political and religious nemesis of the Prophet of Islam, and as consolation came to be in his marriage, her age at marriage she was about 19, UmmSalama because she was his cousin and her husband became the casualty of war in Uhud, UmmSalama being the most wisest and educated from this second set of wives, after Khadija of course, because he used to bring her on all of his defense wars of Medina, Zainab because she was another cousin and was divorced due to her husband changing religion in Africa and so on.
Point here is, when men, and most men do, or they claim to at least for the first few years that they have found their imaginary ‘soul mate’, it leaves no foundation in getting another wife except for the reasons of lesser value that you mentioned.
You are so smart and talented! Allahumma barik. I’m 16, and I want to be as intelligent and articulate as you😭 I don’t know where to start though. I fear I’ll never be intelligent enough to write such an amazing and profound article, or to even learn properly about my own religion.
You don’t have to be as smart “as” someone! Be your own kind of smart.
I honestly think that jumping straight into whatever subject,you’re trying to pursue and gain more knowledge about, is the best and easiest way. I mean sure, resource allocation and all is important but if you keep gathering intel and yet never use this gathered knowledge then what’s its use?
You can if you decide that you want to do something about that lack of knowledge that you see in yourself. We’re human and as long as we exist in this life, we have time to learn, God willing!
Hi Raz, I want to start off by saying that this article is magnificent. I’m all the way in Australia and this is an amazing piece sending love from here. However, I don’t really understand section 4.4 once you spoke about inheritance. This is because isn’t the husband supposed to write their will were a certain amount of money or a house given to each wife or children if children are involved. Are you referring that some men don’t give anything to the second wife? I just want some clarification. Now I have some topics that I’m still diving into myself and would love for you to discuss or have a perception about it, it would be great. The topics are:
1. Inheritance once referring to women’s rights. What I mean by this is that I know some men who have passed away and they only give inheritance to their sons and nothing to their daughters. I am unsure if that is even permissible.
2. Discussing the role of the hijab and when it should be worn. There is a huge debate which I’m sure you are aware of that is when is a woman supposed to wear a hijab? I am aware that you are Sunni but the shia literature say it should be worn by the age of 9 (which I feel uncomfortable about that perception) whereas in Sunni literature it mentions that it should be worn once the female reaches puberty which is once the female gets her menstrual cycle for the first time in her life. If that’s the case I do know a female that got her menstrual cycle at 7 years old so does that mean she had to get scarfed at that age?
3. Abortion. This is a heavy topic for many but it really needs to be discussed and I’m still unsure about it entirely. Some scholars say it’s haram others say it’s permissible but with certain circumstances. This includes the females health being in danger e.g if she’s giving birth and she has a chance of passing away due to uterine rupture or blood clots which are rare cases but they can happen. Or another example is long term health effects such as gestational diabetes that occurs during pregnancy which causes a high risk of type 2 diabetes after birth with about 50% of women with gestational diabetes developing type 2 diabetes within 5-10 years after childbirth. ( got this information from these articles https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC9016728/#:~:text=History%20of%20one%20or%20more,steeply%20with%20multiple%20affected%20pregnancies. And https://www.bmj.com/content/369/bmj.m1361)
4. Music and why is it haram. Some say it’s not. In my opinion it is haram. But it’s the why that I have no idea. I know that music does have a psychological and emotional effect on the human body. There have been studies conducted where the neurochemicals such as serotonin and oxytocin, which play roles in mood regulation and social bonding. These chemical changes contribute to music’s ability to enhance emotional well-being, reduce stress, and foster social connections. Whilst this is the good in music there is also badness. There is a perception we’re music can be addictive but isn’t almost everything we have access to we can be addicted to? This includes certain foods such as sugary foods which will eventually affect our mental health. Now I have dived into the effects of music on the mental health in a negative light were it can catalyse maladaptive day dreaming. Which turns into addiction of constantly living in a fantastical world rather then the present which has an effect on the emotional wellbeing. Their are great sources about maladaptive daydreaming and music that are https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/10.1177/03057356231222290 and https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/35325516/ the information that is stated was from these websites.
Thank you so much for writing this article and thank you lotsss for sharing your journey, research and opinions. Have a lovely day beautiful 🫶🏻.
This is such a well written article! I loved how organised and straight to the point it was, it really increased my understanding on this matter. I found polygamy in Islam really hard for me to understand and grasp but your article really helped me. I also loved your writing style it is soo organised and well thought out, I want to start writing, can you give me some tips? Xx
Everyone has their own unique writing style, it's just something you have to develop overtime. But I think reading books, articles, research papers, etc. helped me fine-tune my own.
Hi Raz🌺🌺🌺💕, I love this article and I love how you’re able to put your thoughts together in such a way where it’s easy to understand. If you don’t mind me asking what do you do to learn this things? I notice it in ur vids too. Do you have a major in science? Thats all💟💟
Yes! I have my qualifications listed in my about page. I'm a computer science major specialized in AI & ML, and I'm also majoring in biology with a specialization in neurobiology. I also just read a lot and watch documentaries. :)
such a beautiful article! it truely showed the amount of research and thought you put into a controversial topic that people often speak on based on their own opinions rather than facts. it was truely interesting to view polygamy through biology, islamic arguments and theories, rather than through the typical “podcast bros”. i really enjoyed the way your articulated everything and am very excited to see you speak on different topics! 🤍
From an Islamic perspective your article is misinformation at best. Mohammad was about to divorce one of his older wives simply because she was old and he had no use for her, he only agreed to retain her when she gave up certain rights.
Mohammad is known to marry the wife of his own adopted son ( zayd ) because he once visited her and was smitten by her. This led to the abolition of adoption in Islam.
Quran also permits having concubines alongside with 4 Wives, even Mohammad used to have them
And remember the command of quran and sunnah is valid till eternity, your opinions will not invalidate them
I would like to hear Raz’s reply as I too found some of her arguments flawed… It doesn’t seem logical to argue that the reason for allowing polygamy is to provide stability and security to women in need in specefic circumstances and that sexual desires arent the essence of such permissibility yet failing to acknowledge concubinage and the permissibility of sleeping with them and the prophet participating in such acts + the prophets marriage to zaynab was out of lust and yes he married a widowed women but she only became widowed because he wanted to marry her… when he desired her she was married. My point is claiming that arguing that the permissibility of polygamy is to satisfy male sexual desires is an profane accusation towards the prophet and doesn’t align with islamic values seems dismissive to me when all other contextual evidence points towards the reasonability of such claims.
two separate categories since a slave isn’t considered of equal status as a free creature regardless of what sort of mental gymnastics you’re preforming. Marital ties are a must whether as a wife or concubine. A concubine isn’t even the correct term to put for it since muslim men shouldn’t just go and bang a woman just because she’s a slave, no?
We'll other than the fact that prophet and sahaba all had multiple wives, here you go for the reference of multiple wives
If you fear you might fail to give orphan women their ˹due˺ rights ˹if you were to marry them˺, then marry other women of your choice—two, three, or four. But if you are afraid you will fail to maintain justice, then ˹content yourselves with˺ one1 or those ˹bondwomen˺ in your possession. ( An-nisa 3 )
And [also prohibited to you are all] married women except those your right hands possess ( an nisa 24 )
Hi raz,
This was such a great first article! I love how well you put your thoughts together, it flows so smoothly, and your vocabulary is really impressive. I’m curious, how did you develop such a strong writing style? Any favorite resources or tips for improving vocabulary and clarity? Honestly, I want to grow and be like you, you’re my role model.🥰
Looking forward to reading more from you🤗💕
Thank you so much! 🥹🩷
It took some time to be able to build the vocabulary I have, but it’s honestly just the product of reading a lot and retaining that information. If I don’t understand something, I make sure to teach myself the word and use it until it becomes a staple in my vocabulary. I always have like 20 tabs open on my laptop because I’m looking up definitions. 😅 I also struggled a lot with people misinterpreting what I was communicating, so learning to articulate myself was really important to me.
I wanted to take a moment to share how deeply your article on polygamy resonated with me. Your words were not only enlightening but also profoundly compassionate, offering a perspective that is so often misunderstood. In fact, I was so moved by your piece that I want to print it out.
You articulated the Islamic view of polygamy with remarkable clarity, particularly the emphasis on it being a necessity rather than a lifestyle, a principle our Prophet Muhammad, peace be upon him, embodied through his actions during times of war, orphaned families, and societal imbalance. This distinction is crucial, and I recently found myself explaining this very nuance to my non-Muslim friends. Many had conflated polygamy with indulgence, but your article gave me the framework to clarify that it’s rooted in compassion, justice, and responsibility toward vulnerable members of the community.
Beyond the content itself, your writing style is exceptional. The way you weave historical context, Islamic ethics, and modern relevance together is amazing. You have a gift for making complex ideas feel approachable.
Thank you for sharing your voice and knowledge with the world. Articles like yours not only deepen understanding but also remind us of the beauty in Islam’s balanced teachings. Please keep writing! your words matter more than you know.
Thank you so much for the kind words, they mean a lot! 🩷
Beautiful article, with some more ammo to your argument, without saying that everything about polygyny is bad. Also what you meant here as polygamy is in factual term polygyny, to be specific Islam sanctions polygyny and not random polygamy!
Another critical pov., our dear Prophet (pbuh) married young, when he was in his early 20s, and remained married to the One and Only woman for next 30 years, till the age of late 40s/early 50s, and that woman was Sayeda Khadija, the only woman who made him a father of Sayeda Fatima Zahra, the most wisest, the most educated, owner of a business empire, on whose wealth the early Islam found its feet (read Sura Duha of Quran, it describes it here).
Then his daughter Fatima too married early and remained married as the One and Only wife of Sayedna Ali.
Point here is when these men of Islam-Original found their “match”, they remained married to one and only woman, who were their equals in their mission, thoughts, and efforts.
They both did marry later to other women after the tragic deaths of these wives, who you mentioned for various reasons, Ayesha because she was rejected by the son of Abu Lahab, a political and religious nemesis of the Prophet of Islam, and as consolation came to be in his marriage, her age at marriage she was about 19, UmmSalama because she was his cousin and her husband became the casualty of war in Uhud, UmmSalama being the most wisest and educated from this second set of wives, after Khadija of course, because he used to bring her on all of his defense wars of Medina, Zainab because she was another cousin and was divorced due to her husband changing religion in Africa and so on.
Point here is, when men, and most men do, or they claim to at least for the first few years that they have found their imaginary ‘soul mate’, it leaves no foundation in getting another wife except for the reasons of lesser value that you mentioned.
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You are so smart and talented! Allahumma barik. I’m 16, and I want to be as intelligent and articulate as you😭 I don’t know where to start though. I fear I’ll never be intelligent enough to write such an amazing and profound article, or to even learn properly about my own religion.
Hey!
You don’t have to be as smart “as” someone! Be your own kind of smart.
I honestly think that jumping straight into whatever subject,you’re trying to pursue and gain more knowledge about, is the best and easiest way. I mean sure, resource allocation and all is important but if you keep gathering intel and yet never use this gathered knowledge then what’s its use?
You can if you decide that you want to do something about that lack of knowledge that you see in yourself. We’re human and as long as we exist in this life, we have time to learn, God willing!
Hi Raz, I want to start off by saying that this article is magnificent. I’m all the way in Australia and this is an amazing piece sending love from here. However, I don’t really understand section 4.4 once you spoke about inheritance. This is because isn’t the husband supposed to write their will were a certain amount of money or a house given to each wife or children if children are involved. Are you referring that some men don’t give anything to the second wife? I just want some clarification. Now I have some topics that I’m still diving into myself and would love for you to discuss or have a perception about it, it would be great. The topics are:
1. Inheritance once referring to women’s rights. What I mean by this is that I know some men who have passed away and they only give inheritance to their sons and nothing to their daughters. I am unsure if that is even permissible.
2. Discussing the role of the hijab and when it should be worn. There is a huge debate which I’m sure you are aware of that is when is a woman supposed to wear a hijab? I am aware that you are Sunni but the shia literature say it should be worn by the age of 9 (which I feel uncomfortable about that perception) whereas in Sunni literature it mentions that it should be worn once the female reaches puberty which is once the female gets her menstrual cycle for the first time in her life. If that’s the case I do know a female that got her menstrual cycle at 7 years old so does that mean she had to get scarfed at that age?
3. Abortion. This is a heavy topic for many but it really needs to be discussed and I’m still unsure about it entirely. Some scholars say it’s haram others say it’s permissible but with certain circumstances. This includes the females health being in danger e.g if she’s giving birth and she has a chance of passing away due to uterine rupture or blood clots which are rare cases but they can happen. Or another example is long term health effects such as gestational diabetes that occurs during pregnancy which causes a high risk of type 2 diabetes after birth with about 50% of women with gestational diabetes developing type 2 diabetes within 5-10 years after childbirth. ( got this information from these articles https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC9016728/#:~:text=History%20of%20one%20or%20more,steeply%20with%20multiple%20affected%20pregnancies. And https://www.bmj.com/content/369/bmj.m1361)
4. Music and why is it haram. Some say it’s not. In my opinion it is haram. But it’s the why that I have no idea. I know that music does have a psychological and emotional effect on the human body. There have been studies conducted where the neurochemicals such as serotonin and oxytocin, which play roles in mood regulation and social bonding. These chemical changes contribute to music’s ability to enhance emotional well-being, reduce stress, and foster social connections. Whilst this is the good in music there is also badness. There is a perception we’re music can be addictive but isn’t almost everything we have access to we can be addicted to? This includes certain foods such as sugary foods which will eventually affect our mental health. Now I have dived into the effects of music on the mental health in a negative light were it can catalyse maladaptive day dreaming. Which turns into addiction of constantly living in a fantastical world rather then the present which has an effect on the emotional wellbeing. Their are great sources about maladaptive daydreaming and music that are https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/10.1177/03057356231222290 and https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/35325516/ the information that is stated was from these websites.
Thank you so much for writing this article and thank you lotsss for sharing your journey, research and opinions. Have a lovely day beautiful 🫶🏻.
Hi raz,
This is such a well written article! I loved how organised and straight to the point it was, it really increased my understanding on this matter. I found polygamy in Islam really hard for me to understand and grasp but your article really helped me. I also loved your writing style it is soo organised and well thought out, I want to start writing, can you give me some tips? Xx
Everyone has their own unique writing style, it's just something you have to develop overtime. But I think reading books, articles, research papers, etc. helped me fine-tune my own.
Thanks!! I’m just trying to figure out what I want to write about. I have soo many ideas
Hi Raz🌺🌺🌺💕, I love this article and I love how you’re able to put your thoughts together in such a way where it’s easy to understand. If you don’t mind me asking what do you do to learn this things? I notice it in ur vids too. Do you have a major in science? Thats all💟💟
Yes! I have my qualifications listed in my about page. I'm a computer science major specialized in AI & ML, and I'm also majoring in biology with a specialization in neurobiology. I also just read a lot and watch documentaries. :)
Hope you’re doing well! I was wondering if you could make a TikTok video about different documentaries you recommend. Something like:
“What documentaries do you watch, and which ones do you recommend?”
definitely interesting read. keep awesoming bud
Brilliant structured and well written, expected no less from the lady I use to see debate constantly on socials back in the day.
such a beautiful article! it truely showed the amount of research and thought you put into a controversial topic that people often speak on based on their own opinions rather than facts. it was truely interesting to view polygamy through biology, islamic arguments and theories, rather than through the typical “podcast bros”. i really enjoyed the way your articulated everything and am very excited to see you speak on different topics! 🤍
This is such a brilliant piece. Well done.
So excited to read it 🥰
The goat came out though🙌 so exited to read this
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From an Islamic perspective your article is misinformation at best. Mohammad was about to divorce one of his older wives simply because she was old and he had no use for her, he only agreed to retain her when she gave up certain rights.
Mohammad is known to marry the wife of his own adopted son ( zayd ) because he once visited her and was smitten by her. This led to the abolition of adoption in Islam.
Quran also permits having concubines alongside with 4 Wives, even Mohammad used to have them
And remember the command of quran and sunnah is valid till eternity, your opinions will not invalidate them
I would like to hear Raz’s reply as I too found some of her arguments flawed… It doesn’t seem logical to argue that the reason for allowing polygamy is to provide stability and security to women in need in specefic circumstances and that sexual desires arent the essence of such permissibility yet failing to acknowledge concubinage and the permissibility of sleeping with them and the prophet participating in such acts + the prophets marriage to zaynab was out of lust and yes he married a widowed women but she only became widowed because he wanted to marry her… when he desired her she was married. My point is claiming that arguing that the permissibility of polygamy is to satisfy male sexual desires is an profane accusation towards the prophet and doesn’t align with islamic values seems dismissive to me when all other contextual evidence points towards the reasonability of such claims.
two separate categories since a slave isn’t considered of equal status as a free creature regardless of what sort of mental gymnastics you’re preforming. Marital ties are a must whether as a wife or concubine. A concubine isn’t even the correct term to put for it since muslim men shouldn’t just go and bang a woman just because she’s a slave, no?
How can concubinage be allowed openly without restrictions if sexual access to them was still through marriage?
Elaborate, where does the 4 wives and addition of concubine allowed exactly in the Quran or Sahih Hadiths?
If is showing in Qur'an will you leave islam?
We'll other than the fact that prophet and sahaba all had multiple wives, here you go for the reference of multiple wives
If you fear you might fail to give orphan women their ˹due˺ rights ˹if you were to marry them˺, then marry other women of your choice—two, three, or four. But if you are afraid you will fail to maintain justice, then ˹content yourselves with˺ one1 or those ˹bondwomen˺ in your possession. ( An-nisa 3 )
And [also prohibited to you are all] married women except those your right hands possess ( an nisa 24 )
polygamy is permitted, I didn’t deny that?💀
Your the one who mentioned wives alongside concubines hinting at acts that aren’t even true. Blasphemy is forbidden you know?
Leaving or not has nothing to do with you, It’s between me and god. So, provide proof for your claims or it’s just a theory with no base.
this is so incredibly well-researched that i'm surprised it's not an actual published paper. thank you for sharing!